One note on deception and especially self-deception;
In old faerie stories, the “faeries” hate being named more than anything. If you ever meet a faerie, don’t be rude and name it..
I think about that a lot.
It’s one of the largest hints we have.. that and the fact that EM fields don’t like Iron (cough! I mean Faeries).
So why don’t faeries want to be named?
Probably the same reason that humans don’t want to be “named” (defined).
Humans and faeires have something in common.. our “conscious rational selves” are “just” stories that we tell ourselves.
You notice how when someone “messes with the story you tell about yourself” that you get angry?
Faeries and humans are fragile.. both are easily re-programmed, with the injection of hostile stories.